Month: September 2014

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I’m Sorry You Are NOT a Military Family–So Put That In Your Pipe And Smoke It.

  I’m in TJ Maxx and somehow I find myself talking to a stranger about the Navy and I become exasperated. I’m so tired of hearing people say to me “I don’t know how you do it–I could NEVER do it”—referring to the fact that my husband is in the military. I can’t help but feel really annoyed.  I know there is a complement in there but it still bugs me.  To me, it’s saying “Wow I feel sorry for you because your life is so hard”. And, again, I know the intent is not to make me feel bad but it does.  My family might have different challenges than you but we all have challenges. Yes, I have experienced deployments with small children.  This gave me the opportunity to flipping dig deep!  Want to know what you are made of?  Get rid of your safety net.  That’s what deployments do.  You are on your own and you have to figure it out.  Sometimes you are in a brand new place too.  And it’s hard. …

Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend-Washington, DC

Cynics need not visit me today.  I have no time or space for you.  I have been on a journey.  I have accepted a quest.  I have spent the weekend with Oprah. Part I.  Anticipation. In my life there have been moments where I have been low. I have been blue.  I have been defeated, deflated, depleted and depressed.  I have been alone and tired. And I have watched Oprah. She has introduced me to Martha Beck, Elizabeth Gilbert, books, visionaries, big thoughts, deep thoughts, Deepak, TED talks, spiritual gurus, movies, and aha moments. So when the call came asking if I wanted to go to Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend in Washington, DC, the exact place I was moving to—I accepted the calling. Part II. Disappointment. I experienced altitude sickness while climbing the precipice to my seat at the Verizon Center. Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend had begun for me 9 hours earlier. I had spent that time in O Town which was comprised of Olay, Toyota, Ikea, Tide, Pantene, Bounty, and …

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  I forget so many things about my life.  I forget past memories, I forget to be grateful, I forget to put on deodorant, I forget where I put my car keys, I forget that my kids don’t have the same fully functioning brain as an adult so I forget to be patient. I totally forgot about being screamed at by men in uniform with really big guns pointed at my feet. And I forgot about how we paid for part of our minivan in 2001. And then I remembered. Yesterday was the anniversary of 9-11 and I forgot that too until last night. I watched a documentary about what enfolded that day and was mesmerized.  I was completely 100% there again on that day 13 years ago.  It was like a portal opened to my past and I remembered. I remember that I was the Office Manager, Human Resources Manager, Executive Assistant and about 12 other things for a small construction company in South Texas.  A lot of Texan Men and me. And if …

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Canopies, Red, Robots and Decorating Boys Bedrooms

New York Interior Designers & Decorators Tamara H Design   Today I went to the OBGYN for my annual exam with my 7 year old son.  It was a dream come true. sar·casm noun \ˈsär-ˌka-zəm\ : the use of words that mean the opposite of what you really want to say especially in order to insult someone, to show irritation, or to be funny He’s home sick today.  There has been a total of 7 days of school.  He has been there for 4 1/2 of them.  Sigh. My little guy is actually good as gold when he is home sick.  Today he was my little buddy escorting me about town and a lovely companion.  Although while he waited for me in the nurses’s station during my exam he picked up all sorts of female medical terms that I would have preferred to avoided. So Home Goods was practically NEXT DOOR to the doctor’s office.  I mean I almost had to walk through it just to get back in the car.  Naturally, I dragged my semi-sick …

Shopping Cart Hell

The day was hot.  The shopping cart was full.  The car was far. And so begins my tale of a shopping trip gone wrong. The setting is inside a Target located in a chic urban downtown city center. The Target is located on the 4th floor with an adjacent parking garage. My friend, Mony, and I chose to park somewhere else.  And then proceeded to Target to shop for everything back to school related.  When we could fit nothing more into our cart we paid for our purchases and realized upon exiting that our car was not outside the door.  It was blocks away. We push the cart to the car I say.  No you move the car she says.  No traffic is a mess I say.  So down we go in the elevator to the street level. As we attempt to exit Mony sees a sign that says the wheels will lock if we exit the building.  I tell her to push fast.  Speed will override the system. No.  No it did not. What …

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Displaying Kid’s Artwork

  OMG it’s Labor Day.  How did this happen??  Summer! Don’t Go!!!! And tomorrow is the first day of a new school for my boys.  And sports. And extracurricular clubs.  And homework.  And bedtimes.  And the often feared   S-C-H-E-D-U-L-E.  In short, many changes this way come, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.  It just feels like it. What is it about change that creates such anxiety? I read somewhere that our brains our wired to resist change–to follow familiar paths where we know there is no “danger”–something that goes back to our cave man days.  So when something new comes up, your brain fires up warnings, saying, “911!” Your glands respond by preparing you to fight, flee or freeze. Now you’re all charged up with adrenaline so you’re physically able to fight or flee if you need to. You are ready to deal with a life-threatening event.  Of course 999/100 times it’s not a life threatening event it’s just something “new”.  But your body doesn’t know that so your head still throbs and …