Month: July 2015


Kicking the Decorating Rut…The Conclusion

Our homes are part of our self-definition. If you are in a decorating rut I am sure this is not good news. I can almost hear the snarky comments you are making about yourself and how that explains a lot about your current situation. I am a super impatient person. I always say in interview speak “I am results oriented”.  I need everything done yesterday and if it isn’t I feel practically hopeless. There is an African fable that stays with me about a tribesman who had never seen modern Western life and the entirety of his life was in the now. He was trapped in a large cave where he could only see the sky. The man could not understand the temporariness of his situation and thought his life would always be like this so he promptly died. He fully lived in the present and had no concept of waiting for tomorrow. Normally, I’m all for living in the now, but if you don’t have the money for decorating fixes, you, like the tribesman …

Ugly, Unwanted, Overwhelmed and Guilt lurk around every corner...

Kicking the Decorating Rut…Pitfalls.

Ugly, Unwanted, Overwhelmed and Guilt lurk around every corner…   You have voiced concerns, complaints, and exasperated cries for help: “What about when I try to kick out the lurking shadows of Ugly and Unwanted and Guilt stands with his arms crossed at my door?”  (If you are concerned over what this is about you might want to read the prior two posts:  Decorating Rut Part 1, Decorating Rut Part 2.) “What happens when I get rid of Ugly and Unwanted and realize there is NOTHING left in my house?” “What do I do when I try to do what you tell me but Overwhelmed kicks the snot out of Guilt and follows me around like a lousy rat?” “What happens if I get rid of it and then I need it?” 1. Guilt. Put it in perspective. It is STUFF. Yes, I know that it represents in our mind’s eye friends and family and life events. Yes, I know that these things were given to you out of kindness. But it is the act, the person, …

Monsters Inc.

Kicking the Decorating Rut–Part 2

Here we are ladies and gentlemen, to your left is ugly, to your right is does not match, behind us is what was I thinking, and upstairs is where the really rejected goes to hide. We are in the belly of the beast. Please, hold small children by the hand and stay with the group–this is no where to be alone. We will be passing out garbage bags. Your job is to fill the bag with the broken and useless remains around you. Please do not multitask as the monsters around will vie for your attention rendering you paralyzed. Once we finish we will be doing a second pass. Please follow the signs which will be visibly posted: This is not a drill. I repeat this is the real thing. Please follow directions and we will all get through this together. ************************************** Decorating Rut Part 1, Organizing and Fear    


How To Get Out Of A Decorating Rut

  Do you dislike your house but are uninspired, broke, and not motivated? Are you using all your energy to schlepp people and stuff to and fro? Do you rent? Are you a military family? Do you have kids that use your furniture as napkins? Do you own a dog that treats your furniture like a towel right out of the shower? Do you live in Northern Virginia on a tight budget? Do you glance at decorating magazines and then chuck them across the room because they are about as realistic as living here: Well my friend you are not alone. In fact, the people that don’t fall into the above category actually live in that house pictured above. Let’s take a minute and ponder that. *minute Yeah, no. I can’t wrap my head around it either. Ok, let’s put a stop to this nonsense. Pick up the decorating magazine you tossed across the room and/or go on and figure out what you like. When you go on a road trip you have a destination and …

Inspired Decorating Ideas for the Unexpected aka WOW!

  I love to be pleasantly surprised by the unexpected when I visit other people’s homes. Especially where I live. My neighborhood was built in the 1960’s and 70’s and the exteriors are very “unassuming”. Many look very small and dated but then you go inside and WOW! The house is huge with tastefully done additions and floor to ceiling windows with views of woods and rolling hills. The backyards are surprising leafy oases complete with outdoor rooms and cozy eating areas. Kitchens and bathrooms are renovated and rooms feel light, airy and modern. Moral of the story? It’s what inside that counts–don’t judge us by our covers. So to all my neighbors this one’s for you… Inspired Decorating Ideas for the Unexpected aka WOW!   More ideas? Try: Smoke and Mirrors Part 2, Wallpaper is the Coolest, COLOR


Merry Go Round

I’m that kid running alongside the merry go round trying to get on, succeeding, getting dizzy, jumping off, spinning into dirt, hearing my friends giggling as they whirl by, walking lopsidedly home, getting called back, doing it all again. Hello. This has been my last few weeks.  Heck, this has been my last few years. Forget it, it’s been my life.  Dirty, dizzy, giddy, busy, going in circles? I’d like to at least think my circles are widening as I become wiser.  My merry go round is more the circumference of Pluto vs the playground equipment of childhood.  Whoosh–it still goes just as fast but more ground is covered. I have a friend who calls the merry go round ride the Joyless Go Round of Death, I think that is a little creepy extreme and possibly a tad negative. I prefer to be more positive. It is all about attitude, isn’t it? I am constantly preaching this to my young boys. There are many things in life you cannot change but you can always change your …

Disco Ball

Disco Tagged

  My iPhone is trying to tell me something. I was texting with my friend, we will call her Deirdre, and I was trying to do the “kdnvoiadjfnnlkjie” text which we all know means complaining with total frustration when my phone autocorrected it just as I hit SEND. Gagged bluefin shake   I couldn’t have made that up if I tried. I then tried to use the word “discouraged” and I was auto corrected–again. Disco tagged   I am disco tagged. We both agreed this was an improvement over discouraged. She told me she needed to get something done like take out the fishes. Which to me conjures up something way better than unloading the dishwasher. Naturally, the universe via my iPhone, is trying to tell me something. Lighten up. Life lessons are much easier to understand when watching someone else’s unfold in a movie, or in a book, when written by an author that you know doesn’t kill off the main character.  You know there is suppose to be that testing phase that is …