All posts tagged: military family



  We are a military family. Last June I moved to DC.  The previous June I moved to Pennsylvania. This June I’m not moving. It feels weird. I hate moving but it proves as a great distraction. I can purge. I can hope. I can say good riddance. I can use it as an excuse. I can put things off until I get “there”. So I’m here. I’ve got my kids acclimated. I’ve unpacked. I only get lost 50% of the time. Our moving claim was processed…umm yesterday, for real. Now what? It’s been almost 11 months. Maybe “now what?” could have happened earlier. But there were the holidays. And the snow. And all the flu epidemics. And the fleas. There were house guests. And mini trips. And stuff. All the things I said I could put off until I got here and it’s here, and it’s been here. Here is so right now. Here is so much more fun when it is tomorrow. Tomorrow is full of promise and here is full of all the …


I’m Sorry You Are NOT a Military Family–So Put That In Your Pipe And Smoke It.

  I’m in TJ Maxx and somehow I find myself talking to a stranger about the Navy and I become exasperated. I’m so tired of hearing people say to me “I don’t know how you do it–I could NEVER do it”—referring to the fact that my husband is in the military. I can’t help but feel really annoyed.  I know there is a complement in there but it still bugs me.  To me, it’s saying “Wow I feel sorry for you because your life is so hard”. And, again, I know the intent is not to make me feel bad but it does.  My family might have different challenges than you but we all have challenges. Yes, I have experienced deployments with small children.  This gave me the opportunity to flipping dig deep!  Want to know what you are made of?  Get rid of your safety net.  That’s what deployments do.  You are on your own and you have to figure it out.  Sometimes you are in a brand new place too.  And it’s hard. …