All posts tagged: purging

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Does it Spark Joy?

  I pretty much have just enough time to maintain the status quo, meaning I can get what NEEDS to get done–done, but beyond that, Oy Vay. I have to remind myself that life is too short to obsess about the unfinished petty stuff–dusty baseboards, scuffed up walls, a playroom that looks like it was “tossed” by the Feds, etc… It’s all just a byproduct of a much loved home, right?  I, do, however, constantly try to find ways to minimize extra angst in my life. I mean life is not always very easy. The last thing I need is my own home to bring me down, stress me out, and be a giant buzz kill when sometimes everyone and everything else is jockeying for that position. So I keep hearing about this book, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo. Her essential question is ‘Does this spark joy?’ “Keep only the things that speak to your heart, then take the plunge and discard all the rest,” she advises. “When you put your …

Ugly, Unwanted, Overwhelmed and Guilt lurk around every corner...

Kicking the Decorating Rut…Pitfalls.

Ugly, Unwanted, Overwhelmed and Guilt lurk around every corner…   You have voiced concerns, complaints, and exasperated cries for help: “What about when I try to kick out the lurking shadows of Ugly and Unwanted and Guilt stands with his arms crossed at my door?”  (If you are concerned over what this is about you might want to read the prior two posts:  Decorating Rut Part 1, Decorating Rut Part 2.) “What happens when I get rid of Ugly and Unwanted and realize there is NOTHING left in my house?” “What do I do when I try to do what you tell me but Overwhelmed kicks the snot out of Guilt and follows me around like a lousy rat?” “What happens if I get rid of it and then I need it?” 1. Guilt. Put it in perspective. It is STUFF. Yes, I know that it represents in our mind’s eye friends and family and life events. Yes, I know that these things were given to you out of kindness. But it is the act, the person, …

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Kicking the Decorating Rut–Part 2

Here we are ladies and gentlemen, to your left is ugly, to your right is does not match, behind us is what was I thinking, and upstairs is where the really rejected goes to hide. We are in the belly of the beast. Please, hold small children by the hand and stay with the group–this is no where to be alone. We will be passing out garbage bags. Your job is to fill the bag with the broken and useless remains around you. Please do not multitask as the monsters around will vie for your attention rendering you paralyzed. Once we finish we will be doing a second pass. Please follow the signs which will be visibly posted: This is not a drill. I repeat this is the real thing. Please follow directions and we will all get through this together. ************************************** Decorating Rut Part 1, Organizing and Fear    

Organizing and Fear

  My dear friend Amy Volk, in Virginia Beach, has an amazing business and blog–Simplified Living.  She writes about living better, and who can’t embrace that?  I love her blog posts everyday but yesterday’s struck a huge ginormous YES! in me when I read it.  I asked her if she would do a rerun over here and she said YES!  So without further ado I would like to introduce Amy Volk.  Make sure you stop by her blog and pay her a visit.  You’ll be glad you did.  Love to you Amy! There are a lot emotions tied to organizing and getting organized. I’ve talked a lot about perfectionism and  how paralyzing it is to getting organized, but the other insidious current lurking around is fear.  Fear happens for many reasons and because I’m no therapist, I won’t even try to figure it out, but I do see it crop in my organizing sessions with folks. Often when we acquire things, we feel good about having them.  Over time, these things may or may not be useful, but still we feel …